All relationships serve their purpose, whether you stay with someone for a few weeks or for an entire lifetime. Any relationship should support, encourage, uplift, and challenge you to become a better person, not drain you of energy and make you feel bad about yourself.
If you have to sacrifice any of the following things for your relationship, you might want to do a bit of reevaluation.
1. Your Freedom
If you constantly have to message and check in with your partner, or feel guilty about going somewhere with friends or family, this shows that your significant other lacks confidence within himself. If your partner is making you call or message excessively or making you feel guilty about spending time with your friends or family members, it may be a sign of possessive behavior. If your partner constantly tries to control you, it may be a sign of extreme insecurity or unresolved pain from the past.
Your significant other should enhance the happiness in your life, not take it from you. Ask yourself if your relationship fills you with negative energy in any way. Does your partner make you feel badly about yourself, your goals or accomplishments? If your partner drags you down and makes you feel crappy about yourself and life, then it’s time to call quits on the relationship. Be with someone who will bring positive energy into your life.
Never change yourself for someone else. The right person will love you for exactly whom you are. They wont ask or hint for you to change. The right person would never want you to change, because they love everything about you even things that you think are flaws.
Only change because you want to, or because you’re not happy with yourself.
4. Your Beliefs
It may be your religion, your spirituality, or your morals, your relationship should never compromise what you believe in. So many couples are able to have different beliefs and still make it work by having a deep respect and understanding for one another. Just because your partner disagrees with your views, doesn’t mean you have to change them. Don’t ever let him question your morals or beliefs.
5. Goals And Dreams
Never stay in such relationship which inhibits you from chasing your dreams. Sometimes jealous and insecure partners don’t let their talented partner to chase his/her dream and they try to sabotage your creative mind. A healthy relationship encourages chasing dreams and goals. A healthy relationship always encourages progress rather than stagnation.
6. Your Friends And Family
Sometimes your friends are your family. Never let go of your friends or family because your significant other doesn’t like them or doesn’t understand them. Unless a friend or family member is toxic for your life and is actually doing more harm than good, there is no reason to give up on a friendship because your partner doesn’t like someone in your life. Not everyone has to like everyone, but there need to be respect. Don’t ever let your partner be emotionally destructive towards a friend or family member.
7. Your Privacy
You need your privacy and space sometimes. You need time to recharge. Don’t hesitate to tell your partner that you need space or sometime for yourself. You’re not entitled to spend every free moment you have with your significant other. Every one needs their you time. Otherwise you might feel drained and uncomfortable. You having your privacy should not make your partner feel neglected.
8. Your Ability To Make Decisions
You as a person have the right to make your own decisions, you shouldn’t feel controlled by your partner. Just because your partner thinks their decision is the right one, it’s best to discuss both sides before coming to a conclusion. Don’t let you significant other make your decisions, especially when it comes it important life decisions like college. Don’t let them control you to the point where you can’t think for yourself. It’s never a good idea to be completely dependent on another person.
Do you enjoy the company of your partner; do you laugh, play, act like kids, and try new things together? A relationship always comes with disagreements from time to time, but even after a long time of being together, you still should be able to do activities that bring out the inner child in both of you. You should never give up fun in a relationship – without fun, life can become pretty mundane, and it will only cause tension if you remain with someone who can’t relax and let loose every once in a while.
10. The Way You Feel ABOUT your Self
If someone takes pain to make you feel bad about yourself, they’re not the right person for you. Your opinion of you is the only thing that matters. Don’t let anyone change that opinion, especially not your partner. If you’re down on yourself because of your relationship then that’s a compromise you should not be making.