Hey, it’s natural to miss someone you were once completely consumed by, so you just have to let it run its course. But about that course: It can be a lot longer and bumpier than you anticipate. It can be difficult to tell if you’re over an ex. After sharing a significant chunk of your life with someone, it makes sense that they’d remain tattooed in your thoughts, at least in some capacity. So how do you know if you’ve really put your past to rest, or if you’re still mired in your last relationship? Here are 8 signs that you’re not over him.
1. You Have No Interest In Anyone Else (No Matter How Hot)
You have guys throwing themselves at you left and right, eager to love the pain away. But all those guys hitting on you at parties and bars? They seem pretty repulsive right now. Guys that you would have thought are completely hot, don’t seem much to you. When your ex calls, however, you pick up right away.
2. You Compare Everyone To Him
Even if you think you’re ready to start dating again, every time you meet a new guy, you make a list of all the ways he doesn’t measure up to your ex. You will compare everything about your new guy to you ex, emotionally and physically. If you were over him, you would not have to compare.
3. You Cyber Stalk Him
This is unhealthy and possibly illegal. While its fine to do it occasionally, doing it everyday is a sign that you still have feelings for him. You will make your self paranoid, every little flirtatious comment or tag will make your blood boil. Don’t waste you’re time like this. Do something productive. Block him.
4. Your Friends Are Done Talking About Him
It’s normal to want to bash your ex and vent to your friends as you get over a breakup. But if it’s been a long time, and he is STILL the topic of conversation at any given brunch/class/bathroom break, you’re probably not over it, but your friends most definitely are.
5. You Bring Him Up On Date With Other Guys
Even though you’re trying to move on, and you’re on a date with another guy, you still cant help but just talk about him, especially if your date asks you about your relationship history, and you go on and on and on about him. Probably why you cant get a second date.
6. Seeing Him Still Makes You Weak In The Knees
Literally. You get the shakes. You’re heart skips a beat. It all sounds really cheesy but its true. Some how he still has some sort of weird power over you that no body else does.
This is probably a major sign that you’re not over him.
7. Can’t And Wont Delete
You can’t bring yourself to erase the last voice mail message he left on your phone before you broke up even though all he says in it is some boring stuff, but you still cant. you cant delete those snap chat pictures of him that he sent you and you screenshotted, You cant even delete old conversations, because you read them.
8. You’re Probably Looking Up Quizzes Like This
You’re probably going to google quizzes that relate to your ex, such as, “how to make him jealous”; “signs your ex is still into you”; “How to get him back”.
Don’t worry, you will get over him. It’s just a phase, but until then, we got you.