Welcome to one of the most debated topics on the internet. Is it really possible to fall in love with more than one person at the same time? While you have critics for both sides of the argument, it is impossible to answer this question generally. The situation that every person goes through is different so you cannot give a general answer to this question. However, let’s hear both sides of the argument.
The first argument states that no, you cannot fall in love with two people at the same time. The most popular statement to support this argument is
“If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.”
Which makes sense, doesn’t it? If you were so head over heels, butterflies in your stomach, blush on your cheeks in love with the first person, you would have never begun to catch feelings for the second person.
If there wasn’t some part of you that wasn’t all in love with your first partner, then you would have never looked for another person.
This is a very strong and valid argument which states you simply cannot love two people at once. You will always love one person more than the other and this person is generally thought to be the second person you fell for.
On the completely opposite end of the spectrum, you have an argument which states that yes, you can be in love with two people at once. Just like parents love all their children equally, there is no limit on the amount and degree of love that you can give to a person, or two people as the case is.
This argument is saying that these two people that you are in love with are both having certain characteristics that you have fallen for. There are certain parts of both of their personalities that appeal to you and that is why you are currently in love with both of them.
There is obviously the person you fell in love with first, who you spend more time with and whom you are most likely committed too. And then there is the second person who gets less of your time and attention but the exact same amount of love.
If you believe in this argument, it is going to be a lot tougher for you to make a final decision about whom to choose. You should spend one day each, with both the people and then see which one you could not get out of your mind for the whole night.
No matter which school of thought you believe in, in both the cases, you need to make a decision. You should not play with the feelings of two people and should come to a final choice.
A person, who is stuck in such a situation, will go through a lot of emotional trauma and confusion. Hold on, take your time but do come to a definite conclusion. If you don’t, you could end up losing both of them.