Surprised to see the topic? How can anyone have advantages in one sided love? What one has read in almost all articles of every nook and corner is to how to recover from it, how bad it is for an individual and et al. The words- sad, insecure, unhappy ending, unrequited, hurt, hope and lost are associated with it.
One sided love is that phase in a teenager’s life which is highly unavoidable. It is something which we all have experienced and suffered. We feel miserable and crave for that person’s attention. We covet for their endearing smile and that one I-acknowledge-your-presence look. But futile it is and one is only left with deep sighs and despair hopes.
But for once, has anyone talked words of positive wisdom to us? Has anyone, instead of sympathizing and listing out the symptoms, genuinely helped us in viewing the bright side? So, this article talks about how one sided love can have its own advantages.
1. You learn to love unconditionally
One gets so used to just giving love instead of receiving love, that you actually learn to love unconditionally. Even if the right, reciprocated love arrives, one sided lovers do not expect. For some it may sound as depression or loss of hope, but it is actually learning or having mastered the art of unconditional loving.
2. You start loving yourself more
Everybody preaches but hardly anyone follows. The only solution that one finds in such a problem (or I would like to label it as a perfectly normal teenage experience) is to learn to love yourself. It is not something to be commanded but coming innately, through our silent will. Unrequited love makes us move in our own shell where we stop looking for external love source. People might term it as depression, but during that process we tend to resort to our own company, thereby falling in love with ourselves.
3. You develop self-control and patience
Seen but no reply; Online but no Hi; Crossed each others’ way but no smile- these all are the situations that one encounter in one sided love. Human mind have a tendency to get accustomed to usual things that’s why people travel and explore to feel and think new. Repeated attempts and repeated ignorance makes us patient. Although a gradual and hard process, but one gains patience and high level self control.
4. Find soul mate outside One Sided Love
Call out to all the teens! It is absolutely OK if you do not have your desired soul mate. There is no rule book which states that soul mate need to be an opposite gender lover. It can be your best friend, your sibling, your parents or more importantly, anything which you passionately love. It can be a character from your favorite comic or novel or maybe your journal which you always tags along with you.
5. You start believing in Work is Worship
I have strongly believed in this phrase and I would love if all the teenagers practice it. Work is not to be taken as a burden but as a passion. Work has its own perks- it keeps us involved, eats up our time, utilizes all our energies and resources. People might find it as a way of escapism but I believe it to be a source of nurturing. Forget people and start falling in love with your work.
So, it’s absolutely fine to fall in one sided love. This experience can totally be a blessing in disguise since you get to learn so many things. Stop brooding over it and sympathizing with yourself. Be positive and think of it as a experience only. 🙂